There is a strange kind of grief that can come with healing. When you have lived in survival mode for a long time, survival stops feeling like something you do and starts feeling like part of who you are. You become the one who handles it. The one who pushes through. The one who stays productive when life is falling apart. The one who anticipates problems before they happen. The one who doesn't need much.The one who keeps moving. Hypervigilance can feel like responsibility. O

We often think about connection as something we either feel or we don’t. We meet someone. We talk. We spend time together. And somewhere along the way, we begin evaluating: Do I feel connected? Is something missing? Do I feel safe? Could this become something? But through an attachment lens, connection is more complicated than simply detecting whether a feeling is present. #attachmentsystem Connection is something we co-create. When two people begin building a relationship, t